What you perceive is the reality in which you live. If you are surrounded by the negative aspects of society, poverty, high crime rate, physical or material danger, your outlook could be tainted by what you are observing. If I were to tell you that your thoughts and words are enforcing what your outlook is, you would probably answer, "duh." Your next question would be if the reality I live is bleak, what can I do to change it? Besides, winning the lottery? This brings up another interesting observation. Have you ever noticed that the winners of the lottery are either living "comfortable" lives or they are very optimistic? Perhaps there is an interrelation between them? What you identify with and what you are living. If this is the case, it is within your ability and power, to change it.
By now, you have heard the word "Affirmation" enough to know what it is. However, just in case, affirm means to state in a very decisive manner something. Therefore, affirmations are a powerful statement. However, you might have a conception of the power of affirmations, which is not realistic. Human beings have within their minds three areas. There is your conscious mind, the one that we take to work, perform our "duties," know which route will take us home. Than there is the subconscious mind. The one that keeps you in check. I will explain. You say, "I am wealthy." You repeat the affirmation five hundred times a day for 365 days. At the end, you are still in a financial bind. "I am in a loving and caring, relationship." Again, you repeat the affirmation and you are still living with a person that abuses you physically and/or emotionally. What happened? Your subconscious says to you, "Buddy, I don't know what dream your living but I see a turn off notice on your kitchen table. Or, supportive partner? Where have you been? The only support you are getting is from the wall, which holds you up, while you are getting beat up." In other words, your subconscious, knows that you are lying to yourself and wants no part of it.
Therefore, trying to fool your mind into believing what is not in your scope of real is useless. It is self-defeating. However, affirmations do work, unfortunately, sometimes the delivery backfires. What words you affirm have to have bases in your reality.
So, what are you to do? First, affirm. It does work. An example would be, "There is a limitless amount of wealth in the world." That is something that we can all agree with. We know that there is money "out-there." We can believe and accept that. So if you affirm a statement like that, your subconscious will not spit it out. It can digest that and incorporate it. You next statement could be, "I am open to the abundance of the world/universe." Can't argue with that one. You certainly, would like a piece of the pie. See the difference between the two affirmations? "I am wealthy," not a great affirmation, unless you are or believe yourself to be. "There is a limitless supply of abundance in the world. I tap into the abundance and claim it for my own." In the same token saying "I am in a loving and supportive relationship," will not work if you aren't. Saying, "There are perfect relationships in the world, I choose to be in one, now," is something that your subconscious will accept. You are not making up a realty, which you are not experiencing now.
Affirmations work hand in hand with the words that you use, every day in your life.
If you are sick and say, "I have a life threatening disease," you will have. If you are not healthy at the moment and say "I have a life-affirming challenge," it will alter the way you think. Thoughts, lead to words, leads to action, leads to reality.
What one must do first is to change the way that one communicates with others and ourselves. One must become aware of the words that we employ. A new phase is being used often by younger adults "mad love." Think of that, what pictures you see in your mind when you say or think the word "mad." Now say or think the word "love"
What are the mental images that flash before you? Now please put them together. Conflicting? I realize that when young adults are saying the term within their circles, the persons know what it means. This brings us to the third part of your mental tools, the unconscious mind. Now while the subconscious may at some level make itself known, the unconscious does not readily give up its secrets. You can peel at the layers of your thoughts and emotions and the subconscious will explain itself to you. The unconscious very often works independently of you. Many times, we put ourselves on autopilot and the unconsciousness steps right in. We loose our awareness, thereby relinquishing our power, when we operate on an unconsciousness level. Therefore, while the person may know what the term "mad love" means on a conscious level, the subconscious may view the term differently and the unconscious will definably write its own interpretation.
Words play a very important role in the world and the reality that you live in. When you say one thing with your mouth, think another thing in you consciousness, subconscious and unconscious minds, you create chaos for yourself. You fail to materialize your dreams because they are so conflicting that instead of creating with your power, something positive and good, you are creating more negativity around you. So, affirmations must always be accompanied with a more deliberate and alert method of talking. You must think of the words that you are saying, while you go about your day. Saying, "That kills me" may just succeed. Oh, probably not right way, but in the long term. The thoughts and words become imbedded in your consciousness mind, than your subconscious and than your unconscious mind. (Or vice a versa). What affects the mind will affect the outer world in which you live and the inner (your body). After repeating the words countless of time it becomes part of your unconsciousness, very much like the concept of walking. It becomes ingrained in your cells and the molecules of your body. The DNA in your body thinks that you desire to die or be killed and it will comply with your wish.
A good exercise to do is to make a conscious effort to be aware of the words you use most often during the course of your day. I will give you an example. A friend of mine repeats the word "exactly" while talking on the phone, countless times. Another friend is always saying, "I'll hit you,"another favorite is "I am starving," "I am so angry, I could hit you," and I am sure you have all heard the phrase "Life is a bitch and then you die."
So in conjunction with affirmations, a greater awareness of the words that you utilize is important. Saying, "I am broke," or "I have no money," "He/she gets more abusive every day," "He/she treats me like dirt," is counterproductive to your affirmations. You might want to say, "I am working and resolving my financial resources at the moment," or "I am felling better and better every day," "I deserve and need someone that is supportive." In this manner, you are reinforcing your affirmations with the words you use on a daily basis.
Another valuable tool to use when practicing affirmations and the power of words is to make a conscious effort to examine the feelings you are experiencing while using affirmations and using language as an aid in their manifestations. We are body, mind, and spirit. Each part is indispensable to the whole. Our bodies communicate with different sensations within our bodies. If you do not acknowledge what your body is trying to communicate by the sensations, you will continue to alienate what you want to be in your world and what it is that you have. Therefore, a total awareness of your self, your thoughts, your feelings, your words, and your body is essential in creating a more harmonious and fulfilling life.
In summation, in order to begin to change your reality you must:
*Make a list of things that you would like to make real in your life.
*Number them by order of importance to you. The ones that offer you a greater feeling of peace and harmony get the highest rating of worth.
*Write a few affirmations on the areas of your life that you would like to see changed or to manifest based on your original list. Keep them simple and to the point. Write something that will flow easily from your mouth and not a tongue twister.
*Say the affirmations aloud, while you shower, while you comb your hair, say them to your self through out the day, every time you remember.
*Make a list of the words that you use most often. Start eliminating those that will not support a positive lifestyle.
*Substitute with words that make you feel happy, content, healthy, peaceful, and grateful.
*Become more aware of where your mind set is at. If you angry, upset, frustrated, examine the obvious reason and than the underlying reasons.
*Make a conscious effort to go back to the originating point that the feelings you are experiencing began. Example, "No, you can't do that," If every time you hear that you get angry, examine the first time you recall hearing it. Who said it? Why? It is alright if you do not remember right away. You will, if you persevere. Remember your subconscious will share its secrets with you, if it knows that you really want to know.
The road to self-awareness, conscious living, self-knowing, is perhaps not the most pleasant of roads; there will be times that you want to turn off the gears and just sit in idle. And you will. And that is OK. For a time. However, if you really want to change your world, you first have to know what the world consist of and than take the steps to do it. The power to create change, originates with you. You can either complain or do something to start making constructive changes for your self. Join Care2.com and The Breast Cancer Fund's Climb to End Breast Cancer!
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